Please Don't Help My Kids

A Patch blogger's post about not helping her children on the slide is being debated across the country.

A Patch blog from Alameda, Calif., called “Please Don’t Help My Kids” has struck a nerve with readers across the country.

Posted in September, the blog has taken off over the past few weeks as it has found a second life through social media sharing. The blog has 124,000 Facebook recommendations and 833 people have tweeted the blog.

The blog is an open letter to other parents at the playground. The blogger Kate Bassford Baker’s basic request is for parents to not help her daughters on the slide. She wrote that she wants her daughters to do things and learn things on their own.

Learning to walk up the slide’s ladder is the first step to learning new things and overcoming obstacles, she wrote.

“Because, as they grow up, the ladders will only get taller, and scarier, and much more difficult to climb. And I don't know about you, but I'd rather help them learn the skills they'll need to navigate them now, while a misstep means a bumped head or scraped knee that can be healed with a kiss, while the most difficult of hills can be conquered by chanting, ‘I think I can, I think I can,’ and while those 15 whole feet between us still feels, to them, like I'm much too far away,” she wrote.

Read "Please Don’t Help My Kids" by clicking here.

What do you think? Do you agree with the concept that children should do these things on their own or do you think it’s unwise to allow children that freedom?

Did I really say anything in my comment?
mea January 31, 2013 at 04:04 PM
I am sure that most good parents would agree that one should interfere ONLY if it seems there may be danger. But childhood is the most important time to learn and also grow smarter from mistakes. In a nosy person trying to "Help" someone elses kids is maybe just trying to show up the other parent so as to not only undermine that child's parents but also that child's confidence as well.
Restless February 01, 2013 at 12:49 PM
Plenty of opportunities to show parents up these days when the text conversation with a friend or the latest postings on Facebook are SO much more important that their toddler clambering up a high ladder or teetering on an abyss. More and more parents have no idea where their child is at the park. I yearn for the days when people made eye contact and had conversations.
Travis LeSaffre February 05, 2013 at 08:22 PM
The debate this article has caused is really interesting. It should be noted that every child is different and they will learn in their own way. Personally I believe there is a happy medium where you can allow children to learn that life can have dangers and difficulties, but it is important to help support them along the way.
Momma Bear February 05, 2013 at 09:16 PM
Well said Travis.....


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